RESOURCES

Resources


Suicide Ideation: this is a very serious question and I am grateful that you care enough to ask it. What to do if somebody is talking about suicide?


Think A-C-T:



A=Acknowledge: let your friend know that you heard what they said (repeat it back to them) Without judgement ask them what they mean by their statement.


C=Care: stay with your friend, don't overreact and communicate compassion, concern, and hope.


T=Tell: find a trusted adult or even better, a trained professional to talk to about this issue. It is essential that you do this at the time of your conversation with your friend. DO NOT wait until the next day!


Here is a website for further information.

Finding good resources: Resources are the most important feature of getting better. Accessing knowledgeable content is essential for recovery from any problem you may have. Resources include books, online material, professional counseling, helpful relationships, values, and motivations. Consistently using resources will eventually pay dividends.


Here is one thought on finding a good book: go to a local book store (or Amazon) and look for books on your area of need. Peruse the contents and when you find something that connects to you personally, buy it. For approximately $20 you now have access to an expert's take on your problem! On Amazon, get the free sample and do the same.

How do I know I need professional help? Good question! Typically when you've tried every other resource you have available (books, friends, prayer, advice, etc.) and still have a life-altering issue (an interruption of normal life activities) then you may benefit from a professional's look at your issue.


There is nothing wrong or unspiritual about seeing a professional (I have). We see medical doctors for our physical needs and our mental needs are no less important. Typically a Christian counselor may be  a good fit for you since you will share similar values in life.


This website describes areas to think about to find the right fit. 


Here is website that may help you find a counselor for your local area.

How to I deal with grief? I am so sorry that you have to ask this question, because it means that you've suffered a loss. Here is an excerpt from my book: The Grief Journey: Finding Peace in All of Life's Losses about dealing with loss. I think you will find it useful.



You may purchase the book HERE


How can I initiate recovery from any problem? Great question! We all struggle with any manner of life's issues–from addictions, to character flaws and sins, to bitterness, marriage issues, and more. Here is an excerpt from my book The Recovery Journey: Jesus' Heart for the Hurting. I think this will help you get started in your recovery. If you wish to purchase the book, go HERE.

Should I take medication for a mental health diagnosis? This is a much debated topic in Christian circles and one that is quite important. The Bible does not address this specifically so we need to use our best logical and scientific tools. The short answer is yes, medicine can be very helpful in dealing with serious mental diagnoses. Here is a helpful way of looking at the question:


Medicine—An Art More Than a Science?

Many people ask me if it is right or wrong to use medication for anxiety or depression. It is a somewhat divisive topic in some cultures and churches. While medication is often beneficial and even lifesaving, it is not usually a “cure.” Medication often simply helps us to get back to “square one” so we can deal with life like everyone else gets to.

See your doctor and let them know your symptoms (be totally honest). They may rule out other physical problems before diagnosing anxiety or depression. And be open to medication. In other words, if your physician prescribes medication, take it. But monitor your use, keep your doctor informed on your progress, and be willing to change up medicines if needed.


But beyond medication, there is usually other work to be done to find recovery. There are likely other issues to deal with that may contribute to your anxiety and depression. Often, good counseling can be an efficient approach to relieving symptoms. Diet, nutrition, exercise, and nature have been shown to help. You may need many different methods to find relief.


Google ”Listening to Prozac. .. and to the Scriptures: A Primer on Psychoactive Medications” for an excellent article on the nuances of medication from a Christian perspective.


What's the difference between a mental diagnosis and a personality quirk? The biggest difference is are you dealing with a life-altering situation? In other words, does your problem interrupt your life in significant ways or are you simply displaying a unique feature of your personality?


If I want to avoid stepping on cracks on a sidewalk and someone points out that I'm obsessive-compulsive, they may be incorrect as this is just a quirk in my personality and it does not interfere with my life in any measurable way. However, if I also wash my hands dozens of times a day and my skin is quite irritated then they may have a point and I need to look into getting professional help.

How do I get Tim's ministry in my church? I conduct in-person and zoom mental health workshops all around the world! These are energetic, informative, effective, fun, and great visitor-bringers. Go here for more information.


My top ten resources to grow as a mentor/helper?

(check out Amazon for the book titles)

  • The Scriptures
  • www.ccef.org
  • Instruments in the Redeemers Hands:People in Need of Change Helping People in Need of Change, Paul David Tripp
  • Solution-Focused Pastoral Counseling, Kollar
  • CrossTalk, Emlet
  • The Heart and Soul of Change, Dr. Scott Miller
  • www.settingcaptivesfree.com
  • The Pastor and Counseling, Pierre & Reju
  • Gentle & Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers, Ortland
  • Changing for Good:  A Revolutionary Six-Stage Program for Overcoming Bad Habits and Moving Your Life Positively Forward, Drs. Prochaska & Norcross
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